“I Didn’t Know This Was ADHD” - Less-Known ADHD Traits in Midlife Women
When we think of ADHD, we often picture hyperactive kids or chaotic energy.
But for many women, especially those diagnosed late in life, ADHD looks very different. It’s often quiet, internalised, and masked.
And it gets louder in menopause.
Here Are ADHD Traits You May Not Have Recognised As ADHD:
•Difficulty regulating emotions (crying easily, getting frustrated quickly)
•Mental restlessness, even when your body is still
•Impulsive talking, oversharing, or interrupting
•Inconsistent productivity (some days you’re a machine, others you can’t start)
•Rejection sensitivity - feeling hurt by mild criticism
•Chronic lateness or forgetfulness, even with the best intentions
•Decision fatigue that leaves you frozen over small choices
“But I Was a High Achiever!”
Many late-diagnosed ADHD women have been successful, on the surface. But inside, they’ve felt like they were constantly compensating, always about to be found out.
Add menopause brain fog to the mix, and those coping strategies often collapse. Which is exactly when many seek answers, and a diagnosis.
What Helps
•Understand your patterns without shame
•Use external structure: reminders, calendars, task boards
•Get coaching or peer support (people who get it)
•Make space for emotional regulation, not just task completion
•Let go of the need to 'prove' your worth through productivity
If you’re nodding along to this and thinking how did I not know this was ADHD? you’re not alone. Let’s talk about it. Let’s unmask it. Let’s make work and life work for you.
Your next step is here:
